Another theorem of mine: When you post/tweet something positive and people like it, after 5-20 hours the dark side of the force enters. With ad hominem, whataboutism and plain trolling. Typically by accounts you never interacted with. 1/3
They are fly-by poop emojis. They unload their stinking pile of negativity and never interact beyond that. They are not interested in exchanging arguments, they only hope to cover the positivity with their stinking shit. 2/3
You can ignore it (and you should) but they are the guardians of the negativity that fuels “social” networks. No matter how uplifting your story was, people that discover it after that 20 hours will be left confused and think you’re not really a good example. 3/3
Example. What I said and what I got after a few hours. Not the first time this happens to me. I understand how it drives people away freedom m posting the positive things we all need. The dark side is winning.
Disclaimer: this happened on Twitter, not here on the Mastodon network.
@wowaname thank you for using your whataboutism to EXACTLY make my point. Le sigh.
@wowaname never on any of my posts on this I claimed I’m a hero of feminism. I gave up my seat on stage to point out that I, as a man, felt uncomfortable that it was only men on stage.
@wowaname I receive positive feedback too. More than the negative ones, TBH.
@Mikoto @wowaname @mewmew and FTR - I much more enjoy discussions here than over on twitter. At least people here reply. And yes, I’m Dutch. So I might come over as rude when it’s just me being direct. I’m working on myself. Since years. I’m just more and more unsure if “social” networks are helpful or not in that.
@wowaname were you there in 2017 when this happened? Am I a smart add for telling my side of the story? I honestly don’t understand why the default reaction on social networks is negativity. Maybe I should just stop being here. It drags me down, even when I post a story I deem to be positive.
@wowaname how can we have a positive discussion? Honest question. That’s what drives me. I want to have positivity.
@wowaname exactly. They didn’t. Until I said it and offered my seat. Yes. I like to provoke. The organiser was pissed. The audience applauded.
@wowaname yes. And I apologise. It’s just that negativity has become the default too many times. Hrmpf.
@wowaname unfortunately I’m quite a public account, being an official spokesperson for Red Hat. I totally love the freedom they give me, but it also means I have to be diligent and must react.
@wowaname and replace it with what?
@wowaname you didn’t answer my question ;) do you want KDE instead? Enlightenment? SysV style init? No cgroups? No containers? Should we switch to Devuan as upstream?
@jwildeboer The good thing about the Fediverse is that it's easy to ignore whole instances, and I had that one silenced already.
It's the assholes who thrive on negativity, and they usually come in groups of like-minded people.
@galaxis @jwildeboer I have no idea how to ignore whole instances as a Mastodon user, is this even possible? Fortunately so far I only had to block a handful of spammers, so I don't have an urgent need.
On negativity, I think that the anonymity plays a big role. There is not a lot social about "social media". Only few people would be as rude in face to face conversations as they are when they can hide on the web.
@schaueho Right - as a user, you can only block instances. Which has the downside of removing all of your existing relations. But then, in my time on here, there's been about two instances that I would have liked to block in entirety, but didn't because I wanted to keep following one or two persons on there.
In general, I still think that anonymity is an enabler, and I have seen little evidence that its removal makes for better online experiences (see Facebook).
@jwildeboer trolling is always much easier than coming up with real positive ideas and discussion points. At least on fediverse it isn't rewarded as much as on other platforms.
@jwildeboer *sighs* ... you need to be thick-skinned to do something on the internet (open source included; as I can't the times I needed to defend my work or choices).
@nik because my twitter/mastodon bridge setup only posts initial posts, not replies. So I copy/paste manually to keep it synced. And my mastodon instance has a 500 character limit per toot.
Mastodon instance for people with Wildeboer as their last name